Tagged “victims”

“if they are asked to respond to a certain question or speak to a certain issue . . . and beyond that, say nothing”

“This brings us to a broader point, one we cannot emphasize enough: A pastor is walking into a minefield, and runs a high risk of causing harm to victims, confusion to the public, and doubt about his own ministry, when he ventures into legal questions, especially in criminal cases. Presuming to raise issues as to whether a defendant is a ‘sexual predator,’ or whether he is properly charged with ‘L and L’ is wading into the deep end where it isn’t prudent for pastors to go. The legal system is its own world, it operates according to its own definitions, and it often uses terms quite differently than ordinary citizens would. Weighing in on whether a defendant is a ‘sexual predator’ or whether he is properly charged with a certain crime is almost certain to cause unintended harm. For example, it can easily suggest to victims, even as it did in both the Wight case and the Sitler case, that the crimes against them are being minimized by the church. And to what end? An opinion from a local pastor will typically be accorded no weight at all by the legal system, especially in a criminal case. Moreover, a criminal defendant will be represented by counsel (even if he cannot afford one). In the Wight case, Wight was represented by competent counsel, fully conversant with the criminal law, who was more than capable of ensuring Wight was appropriately charged. By far the best practice for pastors is to refrain from interjecting themselves into the legal system; if they are asked to respond to a certain question or speak to a certain issue, they should stick to the facts, if any are known to them, and beyond that, say nothing.”
Presiding Ministers’ Report, 9

Tuesday, November 14, 2017 |

Repost: Rape-O-Meter

Rape-O-Meter

Pastor Douglas Wilson of Christ Church in Moscow, Idaho, and the Presiding Ministers of the Communion of Reformed Evangelical Churches care as much for these rape victims as they do Steven Sitler’s son. Continue reading

Wednesday, November 1, 2017 |

“unnecessarily provocative language, including derogatory or calloused language about women”

“In that regard, let us point out a few specifics we believe are inconsistent with the high road. . . .

  • Using unnecessarily provocative language, including derogatory or calloused language about women. Referring to certain women as ‘small breasted biddies’ or ‘lumberjack dykes’ is not likely to serve an edifying purpose in this context. We note that this language has caused a good deal of anguish among pastors and elders of CREC churches who would otherwise be supportive of Pastor Wilson’s ministry. Pastors should be careful not to give women reasons to avoid seeking help from the church. Instead, we should make it clear that the church is a place where all people are treated with honor and respect, and where victims can find grace.”

Presiding Ministers’ Report

Monday, September 18, 2017 |

Of Slopes & Keys

And Child Molesters

Caution: Slippery Slope

“All the varied expressions of transgressive sexuality currently being celebrated in our culture, and now by the highest court in the land, are out of accord with God’s creational design for human sexuality, and are therefore sinful in the eyes of God. Whenever men set themselves up arrogantly to challenge God’s holy standards for sexuality, seeking to teach contrary to what God has taught us in His Word, they are vainly attempting something that is not within their authority to accomplish. We cannot bestow dignity where God has withheld it, and we cannot join together what God has determined shall remain forever separated.” —Douglas Wilson Continue reading

Thursday, September 14, 2017 | 4

“his . . . personal ‘9-11’”

“Steven’s father refers to the revelation of Steven’s sexual offending as his, the father’s, personal ‘9-11.’ Steven’s parents see this matter as a terrible tragedy, secondarily for Steven and primarily for the victims involved.”
Dean Wullenwaber

In 2005 David Sitler, father of serial pedophile Steven Sitler, retained lawyer Dean Wullenwaber to primarily represent his son (PMR 23, 24) — not primarily ensure swift justice for his son’s victims. Now, twelve-and-a-half years later, Dave Sitler pays attorneys to force a helpless child live in the same home as his pedophiliac father. “Steven’s sexual offending” is a “personal 9-11” for his victims and for his son. No one else.

Some people have forgotten the terror of 9-11. Others never understood it. And for others, 9-11 is much more personal than words could ever describe.

The Falling Man
(Richard Drew)

Monday, September 11, 2017 |

The Presiding Ministers’ Report: “effectiveness as a contender for the faith”

Bad Religion: “separatist . . . fundamentalists . . . paranoia, crankishness, and all the other pathologies of the religious ghetto”

Bad Religion

“How did anybody in Christ Church think it was a good idea to encourage and enable a young woman in their community to marry a convicted pedophile? I cannot comprehend it. And I cannot comprehend the apparent unwillingness of the congregation to hold themselves and their pastor accountable for this catastrophe that has befallen the Sitler wife and child.” —Rod Dreher Continue reading

Saturday, September 9, 2017 |